Many times we pretend that the criticism of others does not affect us the least, but it is not true. We often hear how comforting the phrase “Do not listen to what they say” but this is an impossible task when the opinion of those around us influences us to become obsessed .We must not allow criticism harmful limit our actions, and therefore it is necessary to find a solution.
The first step in learning to handle criticism is to accept as natural and inevitable that will happen throughout our life. It is impossible to please everyone, we are always liable to be tried by the people around us. However, this is not necessarily a bad thing if we accept it with security and firmness, and the very key to this is in a high self-esteem and balanced . If we reach this state of mind, none of the reviews we do can hurt us, because we feel sure of our actions.
People who are dedicated to making such comments often intended to cause harmful reactions in a certain one whom critics. When we feel hurt, we often get angry, frustrated or adopt an attitude of submission and humility, this is precisely what they want those who criticize. The best way to deal with these situations is to confront them with ease, playing it down, showing a total disregard for the other person’s words . In this way, we avoid entering the game , showing that we’re smarter than the other. We need not feel ridiculed as ridiculous is the first person that you intend to do harm without cause.
Finally it is important to realize why these people enjoy trying to hurt others. Most of them have something in common, and is a serious inferiority complex that rarely expressed openly. Their tactic to control this problem and try to feel better is making others lose their confidence . Their insecurity leads to an incessant need to feel superior about those around him, and one way is to find a person of low self-esteem, an easy target against which vent their frustrations.
Although whatever the reason for their attitude, the truth is that even should we care. We must focus on ourselves, our goals and needs, and not be crushed by those who know us and they just do not have to judge us. We think that, as always encounter criticism, we also find support for our loved ones , and that maintaining this attitude gradually cease to affect any destructive criticism.